A house manager (also called a domestic manager, housekeeping manager, estate manager or household manager) is an individual who is solely responsible for overseeing and governing the ins and outs of the household. House managers may live on-site in the employer’s home, have a set number of hours per day to come in, or be on call to take on tasks as needed — all depending on the needs of the employer and home.

In this blog, we’ll discuss what a house manager is, what the job entails, and what is required to become a house manager.

What Does a House Manager Do?

A house manager plays an essential role in maintaining the smooth, efficient operation of a private household. Their responsibilities encompass a wide range of tasks designed to ensure the home functions seamlessly and at the highest standard. Typical duties may include maintaining organization throughout the home, coordinating repair and maintenance appointments, managing household inventories and restocking essentials, running errands, overseeing laundry and wardrobe care, managing household accounts, and, in some cases, assisting with childcare or family-related needs.

Managing Staff as a Household Manager

One of the most valuable aspects of a house manager’s role is the ability to supervise and coordinate other household staff or contractors on behalf of the principal. For example, when a home’s HVAC system requires service, it is the house manager’s responsibility to coordinate with the appropriate vendor, oversee the repair process, and ensure the work meets the household’s standards of excellence.

In more complex households, a house manager may also oversee:

Housekeepers and cleaning staff
Nannies, babysitters, or mother’s helpers
Tutors and academic specialists
Private chefs or culinary staff
Chauffeurs and drivers
Personal assistants
Pet care providers and sitters

This leadership role ensures that all household staff and service providers operate harmoniously, maintaining the elegance, privacy, and efficiency expected in a well-run home.

How Do You Become a House Manager?

The qualifications for a house manager vary depending on the household, but typically, clients seek candidates with at least a high school diploma or equivalent. More importantly, they look for candidates with impeccable references, demonstrating trustworthiness, discretion, and prior success in private service environments.

Many house managers develop their expertise through previous household roles — particularly in positions like nannying or personal assistance — where they have already gained experience with household operations, child or family care, and multitasking across varied responsibilities.

Does a House Manager Wear a Uniform?

Dress expectations vary based on the formality of the household. In formal estates, a uniform may be required; in semi-formal homes, attire such as black trousers or skirts paired with a white buttoned shirt is common. In more relaxed households, house managers may be permitted to wear professional, comfortable attire, guided by the household’s standards and expectations.

We always recommend that attire and appearance expectations be clarified during the hiring process to ensure alignment on both sides — avoiding surprises and supporting a smooth working relationship from day one.

What Are the Top Skills for a House Manager?

To be a successful house manager, one must have a number of important qualities, including:

Must ask questions to understand responsibilities and ensure needs are being met, and must convey any concerns or issues that arise.
Must be able to build a relationship with their employer built on trust and mutual understanding.
Must keep track of duties and handle a list of multiple responsibilities at a given time.
Must keep confidential home and family information private.
Must trust their capabilities to get work done and hire the right staff as needed (repairs, gardening, etc.)
Must take great care in dealing with the employer, the home, and other members of the household.
Must be able to think on their feet to come up with quick solutions to any conflicts or complications.

What Is the Average Salary for a House Manager?

Compensation for a house manager varies depending on the size and complexity of the household, the level of responsibility involved, and the expertise the individual brings to the role. For example, managing a larger estate with staff oversight will command a different salary than overseeing a smaller private residence.

Location also plays an important role, as compensation is typically aligned with local market standards and cost of living in that area. Many house managers also receive additional benefits such as healthcare stipends, reimbursement for travel expenses, or other lifestyle-related perks.

At My Household Managed, we provide personalized guidance on current market rates and competitive compensation packages as part of our consultation process, ensuring both families and candidates are fully informed and aligned.

My Household Managed: Discreet Domestic Staffing for Exceptional Households

At My Household Managed, we specialize in curating exceptional domestic staff placements for discerning households. Founded by an experienced recruiter and former private service professional, we bring a rare dual perspective — understanding the priorities of both employers and employees to ensure enduring, successful placements.

Our approach is rooted in precision, discretion, and unmatched service, saving our clients valuable time while delivering outstanding results. Each search is carefully tailored to reflect the unique character of your household and the high standards you expect.

Our Process

Private Client Consultation
We begin with a personalized consultation to understand your household, lifestyle, and staffing requirements.
Custom Role Definition
A refined job description is developed to capture the precise needs and expectations of your home.
Targeted Talent Search
We leverage our extensive database and curated networks to identify exceptional candidates.
Rigorous Screening & Shortlisting
Candidates are assessed on experience, discretion, and cultural fit; only the top 3–5 are advanced for client consideration.
Comprehensive Presentation
Clients receive detailed candidate profiles, references, and insights gathered from our in-depth interviews.
Client-Candidate Interviews
We facilitate introductions through phone, virtual, or in-person interviews as preferred.
On-Site Evaluation
Second-round interviews or trial days are arranged to ensure optimal compatibility.
Offer & Background Verification
We assist with extending formal offers and coordinate comprehensive background checks.
Work Agreement Coordination
We support the development of a clear, professional work agreement reflecting mutually agreed terms.
Onboarding Support
We provide resources on best practices, payroll, tax, and insurance to ensure a smooth transition for both client and staff.

Experience the Ease of Expert Household Staffing

At My Household Managed, we understand that your time is your most valuable asset. Our role is to simplify and elevate your life by expertly managing the search for exceptional household staff tailored to your unique needs. With a deep understanding of the private service world, we deliver a seamless, discreet experience that prioritizes quality, trust, and long-term success.

For Families and Estates
Whether you are seeking a house manager, executive housekeeper, nanny, or private chef, My Household Managed offers a consultative approach designed to match you with outstanding professionals who align with your household’s lifestyle, values, and standards. We invite you to inquire and experience the confidence that comes from working with a trusted partner.

For Private Service Professionals
If you are a highly experienced nanny, house manager, or private service professional seeking your next opportunity, we welcome you to apply through My Household Managed. We are committed to representing candidates of the highest caliber and fostering long-term, meaningful placements with distinguished households.